Little Nothings
someone recently left this comment on my blog:
If a lot of the women were not so fast with themselves, then they would not be in front of the courts begging for money.
Keep their legs shut.
i decided not to post it because i was not willing to waste time & effort responding. i subsequently received this comment from the same person:
Coward
Were you afraid that if you posted my comment too many people might agree with me and you could not allow that take place?
Censorship is never good, you coward!
i just love how the internet brings out the best in people…
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Life’s a beach…a private one
Things that pissed me off recently
1/ the hotel guest who screamed at me three times, each time increasingly louder and slower “More coffee. MORE COFFEE! COULD I HAVE MORE COFFEE!!!” while pointing at cup.
That’s the way it happened… despite the fact that i was sitting at the table waiting for coffee myself as a guest of the hotel just like she was.
When I told her, “I don’t work here,” she said…nothing, no apology nothing. And her husband kept looking back at me as though he was afraid I was going to draw a razor blade from under my tongue.
Maybe the confluence of being, young, black, female (not to mention pretty:) and gifted) means that i’m automatically disqualified from being a tourist. which is a good thing cause tourists suck!
After she was leaving her table she then came up to me to explain herself, “I’m sorry, I thought you worked here!” Could she not see that that comment only made things worse???
Apparently not, cause then she attempted to pat my shoulder. I shifted and told her it was OK. (yes, i can be a coward which brings me to item #2)
2/ the fact that i did not call her on her stereotyping & prejudice
On the bright side this is my first time travelling for work and I’m having a great time!!! Wish me luck with my presentation on Monday!
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Prophesy
Today i got an email addressed to Dr. eemanee, inviting me to be part of a panel discussion. Well, im no Dr, i’m not even in a Ph.D programme as yet but it just seemed like such a great omen. Especially since my confidence took a battering earlier this week. i’ll take all the good vibes i can get!
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Why the nice guys do finish last
Ever dated a Revenge Dater? Aka Mr. Nice Guy?
Well, a revenge dater recently contacted me on Facebook. An old acquaintance I was actually happy to hear from until he revealed that:
1) he used to be both attracted to me and intimidated by me (no biggie right? Brownie points for honesty)
2) he thought i was a cold, heartless, emasculating bitch (things kinda start going down hill from here)
3) he’s now doing well for himself (good for you!)
4) and can get ANY woman he wants (*roll eyes*)
5) including, you guessed it, bitches like me whom he used to put on a pedestal but now recognises aren’t even good enough for him (okaaaaaaaaaaaay…)
6) now they hit on him and he duly brushes them away like flies (after screwing them of course)
Lucky for me i’d dated a revenge dater before. You know the type, had no game in school, always got passed over by the girls and now has a brick on his shoulder. His philosophical outlook can be summed up by the phrase bitches ain’t shit.
Honestly, i had no idea that being a nerd or chubby or whatever else makes you a social outcast exacted such a psychological toll on men. We all have issues. i certainly have mine. But i never go out of my way to interact with someone knowing full well my intentions are far from honourable. And i certainly don’t hold a grudge for that long. WTF?
Of course the revenge dater likes to pass himself off as The Nice Guy, the one who would have treated you right if you had given him a chance…back when you were 14 years old. Give him a chance now and he will eviscerate you.
So, after meeting asshole #999 i have realised that there is a very good reason why i’m single and why i should spend less time on Facebook.
To the insecure men with fantasies of avenging a wounded pubescent manhood, a lil advice:
1) cockiness is not confidence
2) leave me alone. thank you!
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Err…
right now i’m feeling guilty about not doing the work that i was supposed to have done two weeks ago. not so guilty that i can’t take five minutes to update a blog that i should have abandoned ages ago.
so what exactly do i have to say? err…
blink and 2009 will be over and i will be reheating last year’s resolutions, somewhere in the cycle of the eternal return of the same nothing. it is such a bad sign that i feel so immobilised at the beginning of the year, maybe i am just lazy. and on that note i shall get back to procrastinating.
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Single & Blogging it
So i was over at the Living in Barbados blog and i learnt that:
Most bloggers are male and age under 35… . Most blogs are personal (I fit). Most bloggers are fully employed (not just blogging) and highly educated (well, of course). Most bloggers, by a large margin, are NOT single .
Perhaps this explains why i’ve had such a hard time as a consistent blogger. For as long as i’ve been blogging (and even before that) i’ve been in the relationship wasteland. What is it about relationships that gives people (men mostly, according to the stats) so much to blog about?
i’ve been tossing around the idea of writing about just how much of a dating desert Barbados is but instead im gonna go spend sometime offline so that hopefully i’ll get some inspiration to be more prolific online
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Christmas…whatever
Have not made any progress in securing my own island. Still stuck between unreasonably loud & out of tune church goers and neighbour with adolescent preocupation with pop songs and concomitant delusions of stardom. i’m in such a bad mood i’ve been wishing that God would smite the tone deaf choir members for making such an unjoyful noise week after week. Not exactly sure what smiting entails but i’m assuming that it would result in some kind of peace & quiet for all parties concerned.
Christmas has found me uncharacteristically unimaginative, i’ve gotta get my boss a gift and i have no clue what to get. don’t even want to think about the long list of people i’m obligated to get things for. the thought of going any where that would bring me into contact with people other than the ones in my head makes me feel like crawling under the bed with a searchlight and a good book. seems i shall have to outsource the gift buying once again.
i used to enjoy cooking on Christmas day for my family but have since realise that we are really just four people who live in the same house and happen to be related. the word “family” being so gross an overstatement as to be dishonest.
2009, stop coming and come! i really do plan to enjoy next year, i really do…really.
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