Comments on: On Misogyny and the Maintenance Act: A Reply to MESA, BFP & Bajan Dream Project

By: Credit Repair

Credit Repair — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 03:52:33 +0000

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By: Trinidad. Adventist. Gay?!

Trinidad. Adventist. Gay?! — Mon, 11 May 2009 04:20:14 +0000

In the United States it is wild in the other direction.
Paternity tests are routinely denied (since the mother must agree) and the mother is often automatically given primary custody.
Then on top of that, sexual abuse allegations are often filed as a matter of course just to throw a wrench in the system.

I often think that if $300 a month is seen as what parenting is reduced to, then it is the fault of those who assign custody and their inherent biases. If you automatically remove children from their fathers and then create an atmosphere in which the primary expectation of them is money (not time) why wouldn’t you expect them to resist that mold?

If they resent it because they want to spend time with their children or if they resent it because they don’t care about their children they both get lumped together.

As long as the man is the “irresponsible, carefree slick willy” all the time; the mother will be the “conniving gold-digger”. It’s only fair. Right?

By: eemanee

eemanee — Sun, 10 May 2009 20:21:30 +0000

Thanks for your comment ying yang. I also received this comment to my post:
If a lot of the women were not so fast with themselves, then they would not be in front of the courts begging for money.

Keep their legs shut.

I decided to post this excerpt from it here because I think it represents what is really at issue here: control of women’s sexuality and the fact that many see child support as money the man is forced to hand over to the woman and not as support for children.

I guess that is why in Barbados it’s called cock tax- the implication being that the man should be sexually free and that demanding responsibility of him through child support is tantamount to a “tax” on male sexual freedom.

By: YingYang

YingYang — Sun, 10 May 2009 17:46:36 +0000

So many points to take issue with, so little time.

In Grenada, basic child support is EC$60 per child per month. Yes. $60 a month. To feed, clothe and educate a child. If a woman pursues the matter in the courts she can (and usually does) get more support, but by more I mean $125 instead of $60 so more is relative. Enforcement and collection of support is a whole nother issue, but the family courts here are willing to bench-warrant deadbeat dads so that helps.

Can you believe that there are working and middle class men (like my ex) who actually run away from paying $60 a month? Amazing.

By: eemanee

eemanee — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 12:14:26 +0000

thanks for stopping by!

By: MeishaC

MeishaC — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 02:06:09 +0000

i follow the latter blog on occassion so thanks for the link – i wasn’t aware it had started putting up new articles (like you have). that particular writer’s blogs were never any good. whoever is the original blogger usually has more engaging stuff. hope to see more of your posts here too.

- lurker

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DNA Paternity Testing, Free Articles and Information » - DNA Paternity Test — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 05:21:59 +0000

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